Tuesday, 2 February 2010

Mission Statement

These days being positive is the in thing. Which is fine if you are that way inclined. I am, sometimes. But one thing which I would like to say is that I am not going to confuse positive with conformity. Lots of women of my age which is 54 and nearly three quarters, are persuaded to think that being positive means trying to be younger, trying to look younger, trying to persuade other people that they are younger. And if that's what you want to do then that's fine. But please accept that it is also fine, if it's what you want to do, to let your hair go grey, stop thinking about sex and buy some comfy shoes. At long last I have realised that I am a grown up and I do know a bit about life, having lived it in various disguises, and it really is OK to be who you want to be and not what other women, or men, want you to be. SO THERE!

14 comments:

  1. You go girl! I'm right with you - 'cept for the hair, not much grey really just like to brighten up the dull brown!

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  2. Oh you lovely person! Being positive is indeed none of those "trying" things, they are just things that people read in the glossy magazines, they just make for unnecessary fretting, keeping up with the Joneses, trying too hard to be something impossible.

    In fact, you have made me think I might have to blog later on this very subject...

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  3. I like my gray hair and wrinkles... my children gave me every single one of those.

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  4. I love this statement. I think being positive is doing what makes you feel wonderful...A while back I had some health issues that caused rapid aging in my skin and my hair to turn very gray and fall out. I wasn't ready for it. Being almost exactly your age I was going through the process just fine but looking like 70 wasn't working for me. It made me sad and made me feel even sicker then I was. I don't want to look like I'm 30 - although I sure would take some of the perkiness in certain body parts without complaint. But I agree that you absolutely and totally have to do what you want for you...and to be selfish with it...something that we women often find difficult...making time for us...putting ourselves first sometimes. Thanks for this post!!!

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  5. Oh I love this! It's a "problem" I struggle with myself, the feeling of having to fit it with everyone against the feeling of wanting to be myself.

    I think I'm still finding it difficult to know exactly who/what myself is but it is becoming clearer and I'm not as fickle as I used to be.

    I may well be back to read your statement again as I think it's rather liberating :)

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  6. I love this! I've gotten to the point where I'm proud of my gray hair, wrinkles, sunspots, whatever. I've "earned" every one of them. I've had 50 great years and I don't mind showing them off! Kathy

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  7. Brava! When I turned 50 I suddenly felt liberated! Each age has it's charms and its challenges.

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  8. Wooo hooo. Thank you for asking me to read your posting. I could not agree more. Hooray at last someone who thinks like me yayyyyyy. xxx

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  9. What a wonderful post! I very believe in positivity, but have to work at it each and every day. Saying that, I also think that it's a very individual and personal process .... what suits one person, doesn't suit another. Thank you for sharing :)

    x Mouse
    (as she reaches for the hair dye & clubbing outfit :D)

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  10. Hi, just reading your mission statement!!
    I always feel better when being positive. I am 60 this year, stopped colouring my hair about 4 years ago and have lovely natural silver hair!! Happy wearing comfy shoes and am trying to grow old gracefully!!

    Would like to lose some weight not for beauty or age, but I don't think being overweight is helping my back and knee problems!!

    Jackie in Surrey

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  11. My hairdresser tried to suggest that I started having my hair coloured and I replied 'No thank you nature is colouring it quite well on its own' I'm very content with my wrinkles, grey hairs and laughter lines. Somebody once said that the face you have at 50 is the face you deserve well I've got another 2 years to ago and hopefully by then there will be alot more laughter lines :)

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  12. Amen! And just because you are so wise, and because I am of the firmly held opinion that us 50+ bloggers need to stick together, I am joining you as a follower. :)

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  13. This really spoke to me. I'm still not sure how I feel about getting older. I'm about to turn 45. Sitting there at church, reading the bulletin about the next "Fifty Plus" event, my Dad leans over and says, gosh Tina, it wont' be long before you're attending these with me." I know that age gives you wisom, and miles try your character. But I'm not sure that it means that you longer have a voice. My blog is my shout into the world. Here I am! And I'm not going quietly. Loved this. Thanks.

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